Attending your first networking event
November 21, 2025
By Katie Blank
So, you got invited to a networking event. Now what?
If you’re anything like me, you might find that attending networking events can come with a side of anxiety or uncertainty. Who should I be talking to? What sort of questions should I be asking? What if I can’t think of something to say? What am I going to wear?
Speaking as an introvert, it’s okay to be nervous. It doesn’t mean you’re not prepared or that you won’t enjoy yourself. Even if you know that you’re going to benefit, it still can feel a little nerve-wracking during the lead up before you arrive. Below are a few strategies that can help you feel more confident before and during a new event.
First, I find it helpful to gauge my social battery on the day of the event. Evaluate what you can contribute and how you’re feeling about the event. If you’re not feeling 100%, it’s okay to say, “I’m feeling 50% tonight, but I’m still going to show up. I don’t have to stay the whole time.” Or maybe you’re surprised by your level of energy and excitement – that’s great too! Note your energy going into the event to set yourself up with appropriate expectations.
Second, remind yourself that you are wanted and valued at each event you attend. Whether you found the opportunity yourself or received a personal invite, your presence adds new thoughts, different experiences, and your unique personality to the mix. You have something to give and to gain with every conversation you’re willing to have.
Third, spend a little bit of time preparing beforehand.
- Think of a handful of questions beforehand that you are comfortable asking and answering. Having a couple go-to conversation starters can make you feel more confident when you’re unsure of what to say or who to talk to.
- What do you do for work?
- What are your hobbies outside of work?
- How did you learn about this event?
- Do you have any fun plans for the weekend?
- Think of one way you can ground yourself. This might look like:
- Bringing a friend with you so you know you have someone to talk to.
- Having a snack and drinking water so you have energy and can focus on being present in the moment.
- Think of a mantra (“I’m here to learn and challenge myself to grow”, or “I’m excited to meet someone new”).
- Plan your outfit the night before so you don’t have to rush the day of the event.
- Set a goal for yourself that will help remind you of what you want to gain from attending the event. For example:
- Introducing yourself to two new people
- Show up and stay for at least 45 minutes
- Find one other person with a shared hobby
- Identify one person who you want to get to know better after this event
One thing I love about networking at events with The Dot is that you get to show up however it feels most true to you. These are not events where you are expected to show the best, most polished version of yourself. Instead, you get to focus on the parts of your life that matter the most to you in the moment. If things are going great, others will celebrate with you. If you’re struggling, people will lend a hand to help you back onto your feet. People are drawn to authenticity and want to get to know you for who you are.
Finally, remember that everyone who attends networking events is looking for connection and community. The specific goals or objectives might vary from person to person, but we all want to feel known and accepted.
I hope these suggestions help you feel a little more confident as you navigate your next networking event.
– Katie
